To: My Friends Without Kids –
You know who you are and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart! You’ve stuck by me in a phase of my life you don’t understand and quite frankly, neither do I! I want to take a few minutes to thank you and, honestly, to beg you, more or less, to not stray. I promise deep down I’m the friend you met and knew long before I was a mommy.
I want to thank you for inviting me places. I may not have been able to make it the last two, three, or eleven times you asked me to hang out, but please keep inviting me. I desperately need time with my girlfriends! And even though being a mom is one of the best roles I’ve had in my entire life, it isn’t my only identity.
And while we’re chatting about getting together, on the rare occasion that that does happen, please pardon my poop, breastfeeding, and/or runny nose talk. Feel free to defer the conversation when I ramble on too long about my kid, but please don’t be annoyed, I don’t have much else going on right now.
I also want to thank you for helping me. I know you’re not a mom yourself and my life seems so chaotic (it is!) but any help is so greatly appreciated. It doesn’t go unnoticed and I hope you know that. Especially in those early days! Those probably seemed the least rewarding in terms of me thanking you, but I am so grateful for everything you did. Every meal, text, and visit. Every load of laundry and dish you washed! I love you and you’ll never know how much a single spoon being washed meant to me.
I also want to ask for forgiveness. I want to ask forgiveness for things I’ve already done and things that haven’t even happened yet! I may be late, I may be scatterbrained, and I may be forgetful, but I promise I’m trying really hard. Thank you for your unwavering patience.
And lastly, please stay friends with me. I know we are at very different points in life and I may not be showing it very well, but I truly appreciate our friendship. Motherhood is a full time job, stay-at-home mom or not. I don’t mean to be more absent from our friendship than normal, but unfortunately our friendship can’t be my top priority right now and honestly, probably never will be. I truly hope you understand.
And if motherhood isn’t in the cards for you, that’s okay! You’ll forever by an aunt in the eyes of my children. And motherhood is something in your future, when that day comes I hope you know I’ll be there for you as much I can. Even if it does take you over a week to simply respond to a text message! I’ll understand. I promise.
Thank you for being with me in this chapter of my life. Thank you for being in my kids’ lives. And thank you for loving me! I love you more than you know!
Love: Your (Mom) Friend