10 Things Not to Say to a Pregnant Woman

Top 10 Things Not to Say to a Pregnant Woman:

Originally I planned on launching my blog while I was pregnant. That didn’t happen, but I couldn’t bear to get rid of this piece I’d written during that time. Even though, let’s be honest, any pregnant woman could have probably written it! What is it with strangers, or anyone for that matter, and the things that they feel compelled to ask and tell you while you’re rocking that baby bump??

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Photo credit: Cynthia Tenney Photography

Here is an actual list of things that people said to me while I was expecting. Literally. This list came directly from the notepad on my smart phone:
“Are you having twins?”

Why don’t you just say “you look so large that there’s no way there’s one baby in there,” you know, because it’s not like a woman gaining 20+ pounds isn’t already a bit self conscious.


“Can I guess your due date?”

I had a stranger in the post office ask me this. Really? NO, you can’t guess my due date, because I reallyyyyy don’t want to hear your response when you think I’m further along than I already am.


“Make sure you _______ before the baby is here.”

I wish I had a nickel for every time someone said this to me. What’s ironic is that we’ve done pretty much every fill-in-the blank that people told me/us we wouldn’t do SINCE our daughter’s been born. Yes, it’s a little more difficult, but we had a child, we didn’t die.


“You look like you’re going to pop!”

I refuse to even comment on this one.


“You’re gaining weight.”

I’m aware of that. I am also reminded every week as I step on the scale at the doctor’s office, but thank you so much for informing me. Also, reminder, but I’m supposed to be gaining weight.


“You shouldn’t eat that.”

I’m growing a human. I’ll eat YOU if I want to!


(After an inspection of my belly) “You’re not going into labor anytime soon.”

I didn’t realize you were a medical professional, even though, ironically enough, I don’t think even they can tell me when I’m going into labor just based on a glance at my belly.


“What are you having?” (immediately followed by) “But that’s not how you’re carrying.”

So why didn’t you just tell me what you apparently know I’m having….


”You’ll be pregnant all summer.”(While making an equally sympathetic and disgusted look)

Yes, that is correct, my due date is in August which yes is, in fact, in the summer.


A reminder of when my due date is

One of my friends reminded me regularly, sometimes days in a row, how many days it was until my due date. The thing is, I was very patient about being pregnant, but also anxious because I didn’t know the exact time it would happen. Those reminders were not cute or helpful…they were nerve racking.


“It’s going to be a long time before you see a two-piece again.”

Ummmm rude and can we say, INAPPROPRIATE??!? Not to mention it was a man that told me that!


…And just to cover the rest of the bases, no I don’t care about your horrific labor & delivery story, how far overdue you were, what horrible things you’ve heard about the birthing center/hospital we’ve chosen, and/or your opinions about medicated versus natural childbirth.

If you’re pregnant and reading this – shake it off! I like to think that people genuinely mean well even if they have a reallyyyyyyy bad way at showing it.

And if you’re a mama and reading this – got anything to add to the list??

Must Have Mondays

Woo hoo! This is a quite a few weeks coming, but I am so excited to be launching Must Have Mondays! Every other Monday I will be featuring an awesome recipe, blogger, and product. Since I am a mommy, wifey, and blogger these will be quick and easy recipes, relateable bloggers, and helpful & trendy products – all “must have’s” in my life!

So without further ado here is the first installment of Must Have Monday’s! Enjoy!


This week’s recipe is Zesty Mini Bell Pepper Salad from Natasha’s Kitchen

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Photo courtesy of Natasha’s Kitchen

I love a good salad, especially in the summer, and this one was particularly refreshing since it is served cool. Just seeing the picture of this bell pepper salad made me salivate! We saved it for a night we grilled out and ate it along with some barely marinated grilled chicken. It was perfect. It is also an easy dish to throw in the refrigerator and eat the next day since it is served cold. It actually tasted even better the next day!


This week’s blogger is Audrey Uhler of Louies and Lemons.

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Photo courtesy of Audrey Uhler

Audrey is one of the first people who popped in my mind for this as she is one of the first people I genuinely connected with when I launched my blog back in February. She is such a positive person and her love for the Lord is admirable! I always love to find other women that are not shy to express their faith and she is definitely one of them. Upon connecting via Instagram I immediately visited her blog and boy was I impressed. Her picture taking skills, her topics, and honestly just the way she writes is so easy to read and so easy to relate to.


This week’s product is LuLaRoe leggings.

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Okay so I’m going to be painstakingly honest for a second. These took over the world so fast that I kinda got sick of hearing about them. Well now that I have a pair of my own I know exactly why they took over the world! They literally are the softest article of clothing I own. They are made with the perfect amount of elastic to be one size fits all 0-12. How much easier could shopping be? They also have so, so many cute patterns! This is particularly tempting for someone like me who is as far from fashionable because it makes life so simple! And let’s be honest, as a stay-at-home mom I’m perfectly okay with living in leggings. Check out Becca’s Facebook page here and you can also use the code ANDTHENLIFE15 for 15% your order through the month of July.

I received the mentioned item in this post in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are 100% my own.

Going Out With a Bang!

And just like that, my sweet, teeny Adalynn celebrated her last “first holiday” yesterday.

For anyone that knows me, even if only for five minutes, they know that I am a holiday fanatic. I love dressing up, celebrating for days, eating festive food, and spending time with family & friends. Every single holiday lasts much more than a day ’round here!

The 4th of July has been a favorite holiday of mine for years – warm weather, fun times, and it just seems to get everyone in such FESTIVE moods! I totally love it! Last year, while I was pregnant with Adalynn, I was already talking about how 4th of July would be her last “first holiday,” with my due date being in August. I started joking then that she’d end her first year of celebrations with a BANG! (Fireworks pun, get it??)

Anyway, I just wanted to hop on real quick and post a recap of each of the big holidays we celebrated this past 10+ months with some of my favorite photos and memories from that particular holiday. Hope you enjoy! Xo


October 2015 – Halloween

Back in 2012, my husband, John, and I hung out at our friends’ house to hand out candy when our goddaughter was only 2 months old, never thinking we were starting a tradition. Now here we are 4 years and 3 babies later and it is better than ever! We hand out candy, take the little ones for a short stroll to get some candy of their own, drink a craft beer or two, and normally make some sort of yummy soup.

 

November 2015 – Thanksgiving

Unlike most families, we don’t have a Thanksgiving tradition. We just plan accordingly each year. This past Thanksgiving day was spent at John’s parents’ house. It was such a great day with delicious food (duh) and awesome family time. Not only did Adalynn get to hang out with her cousin who was born less than a month before her (only the 3rd time they’d done that), but Adalynn also got to meet her great grandfather!

 

December 2015 – Christmas

Christmas was a particularly special holiday to celebrate as a family of three since it was on Christmas Day the previous year that we announced to our families that we were expecting. We spent Christmas Eve with John’s parents, woke up Christmas morning at our own home, and then hosted my family for dinner.

 

December 2015/January 2016 – New Year’s Eve

We contemplated getting a sitter and going out, but decided we wanted to stay home for Adalynn’s first NYE! We were then going to just sit in our PJs and eat some finger food junk, but instead got all gussied up (Adalynn included, of course!) and made a spread of food like we were feeding a herd. It ended up being so much fun!

 

February 2016 – Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day has never been a holiday my husband and I celebrate. We normally go out to eat somewhere around that day (not on the day, craziness!), but it’s really not a huge deal in our family. This particular Valentine’s Day also fell on a Sunday so most of our day we were busy at church and then with Monday being the next day we just settled for a dinner at home and a few mediocre pictures!

 

March 2016 – St. Patrick’s Day

Biggest holiday in our family as my paternal grandfather was Irish! I normally have a zillion and five pictures but with a baby and a rain storm it made things quite difficult. Every year our family goes down to the Shamrock 8k celebration at the Oceanfront. I have ran it in past years, but this year we just went to support my mom who participated in it. Afterwards we always enjoy some brews, music, and quality time together!

 

March 2016 – Easter

Easter has always been a special holiday to me because of its reason, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t have so much fun with it because not only did I get to introduce my new babe to the meaning of Easter, but I also got to get her all dressed up and make an Easter basket. So fun and she looked so sweet once she was all dressed up that it brought tears to my eyes.

 

May 2016 – Mother’s Day

The most special of all holidays, for a mama at least! I so vividly remember dreaming of this day as I held my pregnant belly the previous year. My husband had made it so special then and so special again this year. I came downstairs to Adalynn sitting in the jogging stroller I’d been wanting with a handmade (melt my heart; extra brownie points) card. We then went to church and although we had big plans for a picnic we ended up just spending hours on our back patio talking and eating and laughing and talking and eating and laughing.

 

June 2016 – Father’s Day

Adalynn and I woke her daddy (my hubby) up with his favorite breakfast in bed and she was wearing the cutest onesie I’d bought that said “I’m Glad You’re My Dad.” His coffee was served in a mug that we’d DIYed with her handprint on one side and “#1 Dad” on the other side. After that we gave John the rest of his gifts and relaxed for the day, until later that evening when we grilled out.

 

July 2016 – 4th of July 

As usual, we drug this holiday out for daysssssss. We grilled out June 30th, spent time with family on July 1st, went to the beach in my hometown on the 2nd, and grilled out and played cornhole on the 3rd. On the actual 4th of July it was really rainy. We checked the weather in the Outer Banks and it was supposed to be sunny for the most part. We had back-up plans to go to the Aquarium if it wasn’t. We used the back-up plans. Haha The Aquarium was really fun though so that was fine and Adalynn seemed to have a great time. After we left the aquarium we went out to eat as a family of three and then drove the two hours home.

I could not have scripted life any better that night because as I rocked Adalynn to sleep and thought back to all the holidays and how we celebrated the past 10 months I could hear fireworks going off in the distance.

Like I promised everyone when she was just a teeny thing in my belly, her last “first holiday” ended with a bang!

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Although I’m sure you won’t remember any of the celebrating we’ve done these past 10 months I hope you treasure these photos. While I have taken the time to do photo shoots for most of them, with cute props, adorable outfits, and makeshift backdrops, these pictures, in the moment, mean so much more to me. Making memories and celebrating these holidays with you for the first time have been something I will never forget. Next stop, your first birthday!