What’s On Your… Summer Bucket List

So excited about this month’s link-up because I am a huge fan of SUMMER and I am a huge fan of BUCKET LISTS (well actually lists in general!)

If you didn’t tune in in April, this link-up posts on the third Wednesday of every month. Share along with us, have fun, and meet some new friends!

The Other Hostesses

Andrea || For the Love of Honey

Courtney || Love of Mommyhood

Maeve || Everyday Maeve

Patricia || Life of a Minister Mom

Sara || Crazy Cozads

Tabitha || Tabitha Panariso

This month’s theme is….

What’s On Your…Summer Bucket List

While last summer was one of the best summers of my life, as it is when we greeted our baby girl….

…this summer will be MUCH different.

Many of the activities we will be partaking in will either be involving a sweet almost one year old OR they will be activities that were considered dangerous or wrong for me to partake in last summer!

Here’s my summer bucket list, which I will be sure to add to! You can obviously see what my top priority is. Leave a comment below with more ideas!!!

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Check out the lists of all the other hostesses and be sure to add your’s. If you don’t have a blog, post it on Instagram. Or do both! (That’s what I did!)

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Andrea || Chelsea || Courtney || Maeve || Patricia || Sara || Tabitha

And be sure to use our hashtag so that we can see what you share!

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Now is time for you to set your calendars for June 15th, grab our button and show us What’s On Your…

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Crazy Cozads


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Mind Your Own Business!

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Let me begin by telling you that this post comes from a place of extreme frustration! I reread it after typing it up and it’s really nothing short of a rant. But bare with me.

After viewing a recent Twitter rant some moms left on Chrissy Tiegen’s page I feel drawn to write this. Recently, model, Chrissy Tiegen & singer, John Legend had a baby girl. As most parents do, I’m sure they’re loving the snuggles, taking zillions of pictures, and falling more in love with her each day. I also bet they’re exhausted, confused at times, and trying their very hardest to be great parents. A big difference with them among other parents (or at least between my husband and I) is that they are very much in the public eye, however, causing them to easily be under scrutiny in certain situations. The thing they did that caused such an uproar was to go on a date WITHOUT their newborn baby. People questioned their love for their child, speculated who on Earth could be close enough to be trusted with their baby, shamed them again and again, and some even had the audacity to make overly personal and inappropriate statements about Chrissy’s recovering lady parts!

Well although I have no celebrity status I was offended and caught off guard by these downright MEAN responses! Why? Because many of the same things could have been said to my husband and I. Here I sit with our now 8 month old baby, thinking back on how we left her  when she was ELEVEN DAYS old. For what you ask? Yup, a date night! No, we didn’t abandon her as people apparently look at it, we left her with her ever doting grandmother who had already experienced raising a child, two actually.

Your first weeks, heck, days, as a parent are fabulous but they are H A R D. Every single thing is brand new. It’s downright exhausting and while my happiest days of my life truly and deeply are my daughter’s first weeks of life, they were a struggle. Less than two weeks into parenthood I made the decision to have a date night because I could already tangibly feel how our relationship was shifting. My husband had been exhaustingly waiting on me hand and foot, our every conversation had been about different breastfeeding positions, nipple creams, whether I needed more water in my peri bottle, baby pee, baby poop, my poop. These topics, though my sweet husband took them on so openly, were not romantic. We were definitely testing out the “unconditional” parts of our marriage much more than ever before. We were tired and not only did we promise we’d still be husband and wife, not just Mom and Dad after baby, we also promised to date each other. We’d been going on weekly date nights for years. With that in mind and the fact that our newborn daughter was currently asleep on her grandmother’s chest and wouldn’t even know we were gone, I got a maxi skirt, t-shirt, sandals, and makeup on and we went on a date. I may have cried leaving the neighborhood and we may have only been gone for an hour but it was time we needed to reconnect. After all, our love is the very thing that created that beautiful daughter of ours to begin with!

So here’s a word of advice. Stop! Stop with the mom shaming! Stop trying to make moms feel guilty for something just because it would make you feel guilty. Whether it’s a celebrity or your best friend, let them navigate the parenting waters. Let parents parent and mind your own business!

And while you are welcome to comment on this post as you please, before you make any negative comments, sit back and think about how hard it is to be a parent. Parents are the only ones who know how hard it is yet they are typically the ones that are hardest on one another. And for anyone that isn’t a parent and makes negative comments, just do everyone a favor and stop. No offense, but you truly have no idea what you’re talking about until you’re going through the motions. Believe me, none of us did.

You can only take good care of your babies once you’ve taken good care of yourself first. Now go have a beautiful day and if that means leaving your little one with a caregiver for a bit, good for you!

Timeless

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I stood there, in the darkness of the early morning, watching her sleep. I could see her chest rise and fall, hear the sweet exhale of her breath. Her lips slightly parted, her head turned ever so slightly. I wanted to pick her back up, and honestly, some nights I do. It’s just that I don’t ever want to forget the way her body snuggles into mine, her skin soft and warm, every inch of her trusting me. For a moment I thought, we mothers these days really have it easy. Yes, we have our struggles, but innovations the past few decades have definitely made things easier. It made me think, though, it wasn’t those things that had just helped me put my sweet girl back to sleep. She’d cried, I’d nursed her, rocked her until she fell asleep on my chest, and laid her ever so gently back down. Those beautiful, simple things have been done for centuries. As I stood there watching her sleep I felt a deep connection with all mothering women who had come before me. And all those to come after me. Although my house, clothes, and the furniture in her room look very different, when it comes down to it motherhood is all the same. I smiled at this thought and closed my eyes to soak it in. Motherhood is an amazing thing. Our best aspects of it are what our body provides to our darling babies – our warmth, security, comfort, and even their food.  These things have always been. I literally pictured mothers through the ages going through the steps I’d just done with my own daughter. We don’t need fancy technology or the newest thing on the market. We need our SELVES and our motherly instinct. Nothing can change what a mother alone can provide to her child. We can trust our bodies and minds to be the best for our babies. It’s a beautiful thing that no matter how times change we can always, always, always come back to that – our deep love for our babies. The moonlight let me steal one more glance of her perfect face as I turned to leave the room and I smiled because it’s an incredible feeling to be part of something so truly timeless.