Behind Closed Doors: Worship

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We can’t believe this is the final week of this series! We are so glad we were brought together, but so sad it’s over. We hope you have genuinely enjoyed following along and have grown through our discussion topics and posts. The final topic we leave you with is about worship because this series wouldn’t have happened without a divine vision from the Lord above and it is with worship you and I can grow closer and closer to Him! Praise God for that! The gals and I shared how we worship with our husbands, but also how we’d like to grow. Please share how worship looks in your marriage. Let’s all give each other some really great ideas! Much love & once again, thank you so much for following our series!


Jessica’s Story

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“I remember when I was younger one of my seminary teachers telling me that reading even 1 verse, no matter how long, would have a positive impact on my day.  So I remind myself that even if we aren’t getting as much as we could we are still getting something.” Read more.

Sara’s Story

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“Attending service together gives us the opportunity to then talk about what we have heard and what we would be taking away from the lesson.” Read more.

Chelsea’s Story

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“That last part is definitely what we need to get better at, though. It is so easy to recite the overall things we are both grateful of or need help in, it’s the ever so detailed prayers that we need to focus on more.” Read more.

Brittany’s Story

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“My husband and I worship together in a number of ways. While we do a few things together I wish we would do more.” Read more.

Tabitha’s Story

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 “We are absolutely piecing it together as we go, and we both joyfully look forward to the day where we can be more intentional, and even attend church service together. But, I know God honors what we can manage right now.” Read more.


Jessica’s Story

I love this topic because I feel like everyone has room for improvement somewhere.  It’s also so broad that I could talk about it for days.  When I first read this question my mind automatically jumped to studying scripture so I will focus on that.

Brett and I use to be really good at studying scriptures every night before bed.  We would have wonderful conversations about what we read and research things we had questions about.  Then we had kids, and Brett started his residency at the hospital.

Because my husband works varying and long hours it is hard for us to dedicate a specific time every day where we can be completely devoted to studying together.  It’s probably the thing we need to work on the most.  Usually we read one chapter with the kids before bed and then have family prayer.  Brett spends most of the time trying to get our 3 year old to sit and listen so it isn’t always productive.  Sometimes I ask myself why we are even trying.  I remember when I was younger one of my seminary teachers telling me that reading even 1 verse, no matter how long, would have a positive impact on my day.  So I remind myself that even if we aren’t getting as much as we could we are still getting something.

It’s strange, but whenever Brett has to work nights my scripture study increases dramatically.  I read longer and deeper.  I tell myself that when he is home we need to spend time together because those moments are fleeting.  And even though that’s true I think its an excuse.  Even if we only read 1 chapter, 1/2 a chapter, 1 verse it would be better than our current alternative which is nothing most nights.

In Deuteronomy is says “But if from thence thou shalt seek the Lord thy God, thou shalt find him, if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul.” (4:29) We need to seek Him and in order to seek we have to set aside the time.  I’m a list maker so the best way for me to keep that study time in my mind is to write it down.  I like to set reminders in my phone, but I think I will start writing it on our bathroom mirror.  It is one of the last things we see before we go to bed so we should have no excuse.

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Sara’s Story

Attending church and getting plugged into a small group together was a must do for us.  Benjamin and I have served in leadership roles within each church we have been a part of, from shepherding small groups to teaching classes and serving on committees.  While we believe that it is important to serve within the church, we make it a priority to always sit beside each other in the worship service.  This enables us to be able to sing together, pray together and give our offerings together.  It is a guaranteed time each week to sit near one another and hold hands!  Attending service together gives us the opportunity to then talk about the about what we have heard and what we would be taking away from the lesson.

One thing that Benjamin and I have a habit of doing is asking how we can pray for each other over the next day.  Sure we know the events that will be going on during that day because we go over our calendars each week.  But this allows us to share any concerns, worries, joys, or thoughts about what is to come.  I feel like this allows me to encourage and support him in the way that he needs.  Praying for your spouse is one of the top things that you can do for them.  We do this after we have tucked both kids in bed, brushed our teeth, taking the dog to pee, and snuggled under the covers!

I would encourage you to find a time in the midst of the chaos of the day to ask your spouse what they need prayer for, be open with how you need to be prayed for and then take a few minutes to pray over each other.  I can guarantee you that it will create a place where honesty is nurtured, God is honored, and your love for your spouse will grow!

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Chelsea’s Story

Worshipping together is an area my husband and I can grow in, but I think it always will be as there will always be a next step in having God as the center of our marriage. It also is an area we have grown tremendously in, however, as we were awkwardly figuring out this Christ centered marriage thing when we first became engaged.

For John and I, worship begins first thing in the morning, at either breakfast or when he leaves for work, whichever comes first. Every morning we pray together, sometimes short as one of us is running late or something, but always before we part ways for the day. We pray for happiness, for God to work in our relationship, thank him for all he does, and then pray specifically for different things that are going on in our lives and the lives of those who are close to us. That last part is definitely what we need to get better at, though. It is so easy to recite the overall things we are both grateful of or need help in, it’s the ever so detailed prayers that we need to focus on more. We need to be praying much more specific prayers to God. This is, however, something we’ve talked about needing to do so at the very least we are on the same page about wanting to do this.

Another way John and I come together before God is through our church. Not only is it a place we go to together to worship, but it is also a place we serve together. We are blessed to go to a church that is active in many different areas and so outside of typical church service we have helped with things that needed attention in our sanctuary, attended a marriage conference, and visited a charity house for parents of hospitalized children. Doing these things, in the flesh, bring us so much closer to God. It is almost as if because we so effortlessly go through the actions that we aren’t forcing the worship time, if you will.

While I love these things we do to worship, I’m looking forward to our relationship continued to deepen with each other and through Christ as the best is yet to come.

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Brittany’s Story

My husband and I worship together in a number of ways. While we do a few things together I wish we would do more.

We attend church every Sunday and pray with our children at dinner.

I do the majority of praying with my children out loud and shepherding their heart. I volunteer in the nursery at church. We read/study the bible separately and do not pray as a couple daily.

This is a huge weight on my heart and I wish we would pray and be in God’s word together more. I pray for my husband daily and have no doubt he speaks to God daily but together… no.

He has been on mission trips, I have not. This is something I pray we get to do together one day. We both attended a Christian College and feel maybe he was burnt out a little by the whole experience.

So I am sorry to say I don’t  have ideas as to what we do to grow together because that is something we are still working on. God is definitely in the midst of our marriage…. I praise God Jerod knows the Lord and has a relationship with him. Back to the top.

Tabitha’s Story

First, in order to be completely transparent, know this: my husband and I are in a season where worshiping together and doing devotionals together seem impossible. But, it it just that- a season. Some nights, after we have collapsed into our bed and before we shut the light off, we will pray through anything and everything on our minds and in our lives. There are even times where we might pray as we are in the car driving. Basically, we will stop and pray at anytime.

When we are at our best, we love to turn worship music on in the mornings and feel the house with fresh air and the Holy Spirit. It’s incredible how that can change the environment and bring us together – wordlessly and without trying.

Another thing that is working is turning our toddler’s bath time into a short devotional time. We will all crowd into the bathroom, our chocolate lab included, and my husband will read a chapter from a book in faith- right now, it’s one from Bill Johnson. My son will splash and play as we soak in some hard-hitting truth.

Lastly, we will often clip, save, and text random quotes, scriptures, Instagram posts that speak to God’s word and share them with one another.

We are absolutely piecing it together as we go, and we both joyfully look forward to the day where we can be more intentional, and even attend church service together. But, I know God honors what we can manage right now. And if you are in the same boat, he sees you and He loves you for right where you are at.

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